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Choosing Joy In the Midst of Fear

Today has been a hard day as I’ve sat and pondered the thoughts racing through my head.  To make a very long story short, we were notified today that our loan company will NOT be modifying our loan.  Apparently, we do not meet the “income requirements”, especially since my husband got laid off last year.  I was so full of faith that we would qualify, due to our reduced income, but God has another plan for our family.  Fear has been the feeling that has been looming over me today.  I don’t want to give in to it, but sometimes in my human state, I find myself there. This has been one of those days.  Yet, in every moment where I sense fear coming against me, I take a deep breath and tell myself to choose joy.  Joy is attainable, even in the midst of what can be a very fearful situation.  But it’s a choice.  One that is not easy to make at times, but still, I have the choice.  Will I choose today to give in to fear and allow the enemy to torment me with lies that God is not good, that He will not provide for our family, that He will leave us alone to fight this battle?  Or will I choose joy — the joy that tells me that God IS good, ALL the time; that He IS our provider, and will continue to provide for our family; and that God will NEVER leave us nor forsake us.
Today, I am choosing JOY!

Yet I will rejoice in the Lord! I will be joyful in the God of my salvation (Habakkuk 3:18)

You will show me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy, at Your right hand there are pleasures forevermore. (Psalm 16:11)
But let all who take refuge in you rejoice; let them sing joyful praises forever. Spread your protection over them, that all who love your name may be filled with joy. (Psalm 5:11)

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  • Reply
    Debbie
    May 16, 2010 at 2:02 am

    Barbie, I'm so glad I read your post just now. I understand as my husband and I went through a similar situation. The last three years have been so stressful. I pray that you will be able to stay in your home. We ended up doing a short sale and are currently living in a small home for which we are very grateful. We went from 4,000 square feet to 1,100 square feet!

    But God is so good. He provided this place for us. He also provided me with wonderful blogging friends who have encouraged and blessed me through it all. I never thought I'd be in that situation at this point in my life.

    I will pray for you Barbie. Continue to make the 'heart choice' to choose joy and trust God with your situation. Stay close to Him through it all.

    Hugs,
    Debbie

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    Debbie
    May 16, 2010 at 2:02 am

    Barbie, I'm so glad I read your post just now. I understand as my husband and I went through a similar situation. The last three years have been so stressful. I pray that you will be able to stay in your home. We ended up doing a short sale and are currently living in a small home for which we are very grateful. We went from 4,000 square feet to 1,100 square feet!

    But God is so good. He provided this place for us. He also provided me with wonderful blogging friends who have encouraged and blessed me through it all. I never thought I'd be in that situation at this point in my life.

    I will pray for you Barbie. Continue to make the 'heart choice' to choose joy and trust God with your situation. Stay close to Him through it all.

    Hugs,
    Debbie

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    Debbie
    May 16, 2010 at 2:02 am

    Barbie, I'm so glad I read your post just now. I understand as my husband and I went through a similar situation. The last three years have been so stressful. I pray that you will be able to stay in your home. We ended up doing a short sale and are currently living in a small home for which we are very grateful. We went from 4,000 square feet to 1,100 square feet!

    But God is so good. He provided this place for us. He also provided me with wonderful blogging friends who have encouraged and blessed me through it all. I never thought I'd be in that situation at this point in my life.

    I will pray for you Barbie. Continue to make the 'heart choice' to choose joy and trust God with your situation. Stay close to Him through it all.

    Hugs,
    Debbie

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    Debbie
    May 16, 2010 at 2:02 am

    Barbie, I'm so glad I read your post just now. I understand as my husband and I went through a similar situation. The last three years have been so stressful. I pray that you will be able to stay in your home. We ended up doing a short sale and are currently living in a small home for which we are very grateful. We went from 4,000 square feet to 1,100 square feet!

    But God is so good. He provided this place for us. He also provided me with wonderful blogging friends who have encouraged and blessed me through it all. I never thought I'd be in that situation at this point in my life.

    I will pray for you Barbie. Continue to make the 'heart choice' to choose joy and trust God with your situation. Stay close to Him through it all.

    Hugs,
    Debbie

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    Mary
    May 16, 2010 at 2:38 am

    Will remember you in prayers. I know this is easier said than done, but just give it to the Lord and trust in Him!

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    Mary
    May 16, 2010 at 2:38 am

    Will remember you in prayers. I know this is easier said than done, but just give it to the Lord and trust in Him!

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    Mary
    May 16, 2010 at 2:38 am

    Will remember you in prayers. I know this is easier said than done, but just give it to the Lord and trust in Him!

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    Mary
    May 16, 2010 at 2:38 am

    Will remember you in prayers. I know this is easier said than done, but just give it to the Lord and trust in Him!

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    Latté Mama
    May 16, 2010 at 2:57 am

    Barbie, you're right about making a choice to be joyful or not. I really needed to hear that. I'm sorry for the what has happened, I'll be praying for you also.

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    Diana
    May 16, 2010 at 2:57 am

    My prayer for you and your family at this time is my favorite verse.

    For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
    Jeremiah 29:11

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    Latté Mama
    May 16, 2010 at 2:57 am

    Barbie, you're right about making a choice to be joyful or not. I really needed to hear that. I'm sorry for the what has happened, I'll be praying for you also.

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    Diana
    May 16, 2010 at 2:57 am

    My prayer for you and your family at this time is my favorite verse.

    For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
    Jeremiah 29:11

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    Latté Mama
    May 16, 2010 at 2:57 am

    Barbie, you're right about making a choice to be joyful or not. I really needed to hear that. I'm sorry for the what has happened, I'll be praying for you also.

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    Diana
    May 16, 2010 at 2:57 am

    My prayer for you and your family at this time is my favorite verse.

    For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
    Jeremiah 29:11

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    Latté Mama
    May 16, 2010 at 2:57 am

    Barbie, you're right about making a choice to be joyful or not. I really needed to hear that. I'm sorry for the what has happened, I'll be praying for you also.

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    Diana
    May 16, 2010 at 2:57 am

    My prayer for you and your family at this time is my favorite verse.

    For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
    Jeremiah 29:11

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    myletterstoemily
    May 16, 2010 at 4:13 am

    i am so sorry about the loan but know
    the One who can do abundantly more
    than we can imagine.

    will be praying for His provision.

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    myletterstoemily
    May 16, 2010 at 4:13 am

    i am so sorry about the loan but know
    the One who can do abundantly more
    than we can imagine.

    will be praying for His provision.

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    myletterstoemily
    May 16, 2010 at 4:13 am

    i am so sorry about the loan but know
    the One who can do abundantly more
    than we can imagine.

    will be praying for His provision.

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    myletterstoemily
    May 16, 2010 at 4:13 am

    i am so sorry about the loan but know
    the One who can do abundantly more
    than we can imagine.

    will be praying for His provision.

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    Barbie
    May 16, 2010 at 6:02 am

    Thank you ladies so very much. I have been blessed by such a wonderful blog community. I so appreciate your prayers!

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    Barbie
    May 16, 2010 at 6:02 am

    Thank you ladies so very much. I have been blessed by such a wonderful blog community. I so appreciate your prayers!

  • Reply
    Barbie
    May 16, 2010 at 6:02 am

    Thank you ladies so very much. I have been blessed by such a wonderful blog community. I so appreciate your prayers!

  • Reply
    Barbie
    May 16, 2010 at 6:02 am

    Thank you ladies so very much. I have been blessed by such a wonderful blog community. I so appreciate your prayers!

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    Adoption Mama
    May 16, 2010 at 11:05 am

    Choose joy, sister. Overflowing…full of mercy and grace.

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    Adoption Mama
    May 16, 2010 at 11:05 am

    Choose joy, sister. Overflowing…full of mercy and grace.

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    Adoption Mama
    May 16, 2010 at 11:05 am

    Choose joy, sister. Overflowing…full of mercy and grace.

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    Adoption Mama
    May 16, 2010 at 11:05 am

    Choose joy, sister. Overflowing…full of mercy and grace.

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    Kate
    May 16, 2010 at 7:36 pm

    Hi Barbie,

    I will pray for you right away. I know that God has a plan for you and your family, but I understand how hard it is to choose joy over fear sometimes. May each day this week bring you something – even if it is only a small something – which will remind you of His grace and give you the strength to choose joy over fear.

    Blessings,
    Kate

    P.S.: I will probably not be able to post something until tomorrow, but I wanted to say THANK YOU sooo much for your wonderful comments and the award.

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    Kate
    May 16, 2010 at 7:36 pm

    Hi Barbie,

    I will pray for you right away. I know that God has a plan for you and your family, but I understand how hard it is to choose joy over fear sometimes. May each day this week bring you something – even if it is only a small something – which will remind you of His grace and give you the strength to choose joy over fear.

    Blessings,
    Kate

    P.S.: I will probably not be able to post something until tomorrow, but I wanted to say THANK YOU sooo much for your wonderful comments and the award.

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    Kate
    May 16, 2010 at 7:36 pm

    Hi Barbie,

    I will pray for you right away. I know that God has a plan for you and your family, but I understand how hard it is to choose joy over fear sometimes. May each day this week bring you something – even if it is only a small something – which will remind you of His grace and give you the strength to choose joy over fear.

    Blessings,
    Kate

    P.S.: I will probably not be able to post something until tomorrow, but I wanted to say THANK YOU sooo much for your wonderful comments and the award.

  • Reply
    Kate
    May 16, 2010 at 7:36 pm

    Hi Barbie,

    I will pray for you right away. I know that God has a plan for you and your family, but I understand how hard it is to choose joy over fear sometimes. May each day this week bring you something – even if it is only a small something – which will remind you of His grace and give you the strength to choose joy over fear.

    Blessings,
    Kate

    P.S.: I will probably not be able to post something until tomorrow, but I wanted to say THANK YOU sooo much for your wonderful comments and the award.

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    Tracy
    May 16, 2010 at 10:05 pm

    Praying for you sweet friend. Fear has always been one of my greatest struggles in life. I'm sorry for what you're dealing with right now. As I pray for God's peace in your heart…think on this verse:

    Isaiah 26:3 (NIV)
    You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.

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    Tracy
    May 16, 2010 at 10:05 pm

    Praying for you sweet friend. Fear has always been one of my greatest struggles in life. I'm sorry for what you're dealing with right now. As I pray for God's peace in your heart…think on this verse:

    Isaiah 26:3 (NIV)
    You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.

  • Reply
    Tracy
    May 16, 2010 at 10:05 pm

    Praying for you sweet friend. Fear has always been one of my greatest struggles in life. I'm sorry for what you're dealing with right now. As I pray for God's peace in your heart…think on this verse:

    Isaiah 26:3 (NIV)
    You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.

  • Reply
    Tracy
    May 16, 2010 at 10:05 pm

    Praying for you sweet friend. Fear has always been one of my greatest struggles in life. I'm sorry for what you're dealing with right now. As I pray for God's peace in your heart…think on this verse:

    Isaiah 26:3 (NIV)
    You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you.

  • Reply
    Lynnette Kraft
    May 16, 2010 at 10:13 pm

    Yay Barbie! I KNOW what you mean about pondering thoughts racing through your head. I've had a few myself. Thank you for this post – I choose joy too!

    I loved visiting. Your blog is so fresh and pretty. In fact, freshly brewed! 🙂 Hannah did a beautiful job on it. She's amazingly talented (and mature) for 13. God has great things in store for her.

    Love ya!
    Lynnette
    DancingBarefoot on Weathered Ground

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    Lynnette Kraft
    May 16, 2010 at 10:13 pm

    Yay Barbie! I KNOW what you mean about pondering thoughts racing through your head. I've had a few myself. Thank you for this post – I choose joy too!

    I loved visiting. Your blog is so fresh and pretty. In fact, freshly brewed! 🙂 Hannah did a beautiful job on it. She's amazingly talented (and mature) for 13. God has great things in store for her.

    Love ya!
    Lynnette
    DancingBarefoot on Weathered Ground

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    Lynnette Kraft
    May 16, 2010 at 10:13 pm

    Yay Barbie! I KNOW what you mean about pondering thoughts racing through your head. I've had a few myself. Thank you for this post – I choose joy too!

    I loved visiting. Your blog is so fresh and pretty. In fact, freshly brewed! 🙂 Hannah did a beautiful job on it. She's amazingly talented (and mature) for 13. God has great things in store for her.

    Love ya!
    Lynnette
    DancingBarefoot on Weathered Ground

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    Lynnette Kraft
    May 16, 2010 at 10:13 pm

    Yay Barbie! I KNOW what you mean about pondering thoughts racing through your head. I've had a few myself. Thank you for this post – I choose joy too!

    I loved visiting. Your blog is so fresh and pretty. In fact, freshly brewed! 🙂 Hannah did a beautiful job on it. She's amazingly talented (and mature) for 13. God has great things in store for her.

    Love ya!
    Lynnette
    DancingBarefoot on Weathered Ground

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    carissa @ lowercase letters
    May 17, 2010 at 2:19 am

    yay for choosing joy! the joy of the Lord is our strength! we went through the loan modification process and then they raised our mortgage by $250 every month!!! are they CRAZY???!!! (hello! the whole point is to lower it!) i guess if the gov't is involved then the answer is YES! the Lord has faithfully provided for us, regardless, and i know He will do the same for you!
    p.s. – i'm adding your giveaway button to my miscellany monday post tomorrow! i want my readers to enter to win!

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    carissa @ lowercase letters
    May 17, 2010 at 2:19 am

    yay for choosing joy! the joy of the Lord is our strength! we went through the loan modification process and then they raised our mortgage by $250 every month!!! are they CRAZY???!!! (hello! the whole point is to lower it!) i guess if the gov't is involved then the answer is YES! the Lord has faithfully provided for us, regardless, and i know He will do the same for you!
    p.s. – i'm adding your giveaway button to my miscellany monday post tomorrow! i want my readers to enter to win!

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    carissa @ lowercase letters
    May 17, 2010 at 2:19 am

    yay for choosing joy! the joy of the Lord is our strength! we went through the loan modification process and then they raised our mortgage by $250 every month!!! are they CRAZY???!!! (hello! the whole point is to lower it!) i guess if the gov't is involved then the answer is YES! the Lord has faithfully provided for us, regardless, and i know He will do the same for you!
    p.s. – i'm adding your giveaway button to my miscellany monday post tomorrow! i want my readers to enter to win!

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    carissa @ lowercase letters
    May 17, 2010 at 2:19 am

    yay for choosing joy! the joy of the Lord is our strength! we went through the loan modification process and then they raised our mortgage by $250 every month!!! are they CRAZY???!!! (hello! the whole point is to lower it!) i guess if the gov't is involved then the answer is YES! the Lord has faithfully provided for us, regardless, and i know He will do the same for you!
    p.s. – i'm adding your giveaway button to my miscellany monday post tomorrow! i want my readers to enter to win!

  • Reply
    Barbie
    May 17, 2010 at 3:17 am

    I love my blog family! You ladies have been amazing with your prayers and encouragement. Thank you again so much!

  • Reply
    Barbie
    May 17, 2010 at 3:17 am

    I love my blog family! You ladies have been amazing with your prayers and encouragement. Thank you again so much!

  • Reply
    Barbie
    May 17, 2010 at 3:17 am

    I love my blog family! You ladies have been amazing with your prayers and encouragement. Thank you again so much!

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    Barbie
    May 17, 2010 at 3:17 am

    I love my blog family! You ladies have been amazing with your prayers and encouragement. Thank you again so much!

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    mchristiangirl
    May 17, 2010 at 4:44 am

    Barbie, I am going through the same thing with my mortgage company and it is so stressful. And sometimes, panic creeps in, and that is when I have had to make a decision: do I give in or do I chose Joy just like you said. I will keep you in my prayers and if you don't mind, I will put you on my prayer request page. There is power in prayer.

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    mchristiangirl
    May 17, 2010 at 4:44 am

    Barbie, I am going through the same thing with my mortgage company and it is so stressful. And sometimes, panic creeps in, and that is when I have had to make a decision: do I give in or do I chose Joy just like you said. I will keep you in my prayers and if you don't mind, I will put you on my prayer request page. There is power in prayer.

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    mchristiangirl
    May 17, 2010 at 4:44 am

    Barbie, I am going through the same thing with my mortgage company and it is so stressful. And sometimes, panic creeps in, and that is when I have had to make a decision: do I give in or do I chose Joy just like you said. I will keep you in my prayers and if you don't mind, I will put you on my prayer request page. There is power in prayer.

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    mchristiangirl
    May 17, 2010 at 4:44 am

    Barbie, I am going through the same thing with my mortgage company and it is so stressful. And sometimes, panic creeps in, and that is when I have had to make a decision: do I give in or do I chose Joy just like you said. I will keep you in my prayers and if you don't mind, I will put you on my prayer request page. There is power in prayer.

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    Traci Michele
    May 17, 2010 at 1:11 pm

    Hey Barbie! Have you read "Choosing Gratitude" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss? I've started it and it is really good!

    Thanks for visiting my 3 friends I referenced! You are really sweet!

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    Traci Michele
    May 17, 2010 at 1:11 pm

    Hey Barbie! Have you read "Choosing Gratitude" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss? I've started it and it is really good!

    Thanks for visiting my 3 friends I referenced! You are really sweet!

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    Traci Michele
    May 17, 2010 at 1:11 pm

    Hey Barbie! Have you read "Choosing Gratitude" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss? I've started it and it is really good!

    Thanks for visiting my 3 friends I referenced! You are really sweet!

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    Traci Michele
    May 17, 2010 at 1:11 pm

    Hey Barbie! Have you read "Choosing Gratitude" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss? I've started it and it is really good!

    Thanks for visiting my 3 friends I referenced! You are really sweet!

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    Paula
    May 17, 2010 at 2:24 pm

    I am so sorry dear (((hugs))). It hard to choose joy during financial loss and devastation. The fact that we are willing to do so is evidence of our God's greatness, amen? I love you and will be praying for you in a big way!!

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    Paula
    May 17, 2010 at 2:24 pm

    I am so sorry dear (((hugs))). It hard to choose joy during financial loss and devastation. The fact that we are willing to do so is evidence of our God's greatness, amen? I love you and will be praying for you in a big way!!

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    Paula
    May 17, 2010 at 2:24 pm

    I am so sorry dear (((hugs))). It hard to choose joy during financial loss and devastation. The fact that we are willing to do so is evidence of our God's greatness, amen? I love you and will be praying for you in a big way!!

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    Paula
    May 17, 2010 at 2:24 pm

    I am so sorry dear (((hugs))). It hard to choose joy during financial loss and devastation. The fact that we are willing to do so is evidence of our God's greatness, amen? I love you and will be praying for you in a big way!!

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    DORCAS
    May 18, 2010 at 2:52 am

    YEs! Amen for choosing Joy! I will be praying for you. My husband and I went to a situation like this. It was devastating. We lost everything. We moved from California to North Carolina searching for answers. THe Lord led us to a beautiful church in North Carolina. But he wanted us there for a short time. He led us here where we are at now in Wisconsin. He has picked us up and carried us through the storms in our lives. God is good! My life is a testament of that! I know the Lord has plans for you. Will be praying! God bless.

    Psalm 55:22

    Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you;he will never let the righteous fall.

    Many blessings,

    Dorcas

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    DORCAS
    May 18, 2010 at 2:52 am

    YEs! Amen for choosing Joy! I will be praying for you. My husband and I went to a situation like this. It was devastating. We lost everything. We moved from California to North Carolina searching for answers. THe Lord led us to a beautiful church in North Carolina. But he wanted us there for a short time. He led us here where we are at now in Wisconsin. He has picked us up and carried us through the storms in our lives. God is good! My life is a testament of that! I know the Lord has plans for you. Will be praying! God bless.

    Psalm 55:22

    Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you;he will never let the righteous fall.

    Many blessings,

    Dorcas

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    DORCAS
    May 18, 2010 at 2:52 am

    YEs! Amen for choosing Joy! I will be praying for you. My husband and I went to a situation like this. It was devastating. We lost everything. We moved from California to North Carolina searching for answers. THe Lord led us to a beautiful church in North Carolina. But he wanted us there for a short time. He led us here where we are at now in Wisconsin. He has picked us up and carried us through the storms in our lives. God is good! My life is a testament of that! I know the Lord has plans for you. Will be praying! God bless.

    Psalm 55:22

    Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you;he will never let the righteous fall.

    Many blessings,

    Dorcas

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    DORCAS
    May 18, 2010 at 2:52 am

    YEs! Amen for choosing Joy! I will be praying for you. My husband and I went to a situation like this. It was devastating. We lost everything. We moved from California to North Carolina searching for answers. THe Lord led us to a beautiful church in North Carolina. But he wanted us there for a short time. He led us here where we are at now in Wisconsin. He has picked us up and carried us through the storms in our lives. God is good! My life is a testament of that! I know the Lord has plans for you. Will be praying! God bless.

    Psalm 55:22

    Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you;he will never let the righteous fall.

    Many blessings,

    Dorcas

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    Julie
    May 18, 2010 at 2:59 am

    Hi Barbie!

    Thanks for coming over to visit me! I enjoyed this post of yours. What a great attitude to have when things didn't turn out the way you were hoping. Choosing to put on the fruit of the Spirit always brings a newness to your day.

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    Julie
    May 18, 2010 at 2:59 am

    Hi Barbie!

    Thanks for coming over to visit me! I enjoyed this post of yours. What a great attitude to have when things didn't turn out the way you were hoping. Choosing to put on the fruit of the Spirit always brings a newness to your day.

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    Julie
    May 18, 2010 at 2:59 am

    Hi Barbie!

    Thanks for coming over to visit me! I enjoyed this post of yours. What a great attitude to have when things didn't turn out the way you were hoping. Choosing to put on the fruit of the Spirit always brings a newness to your day.

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    Julie
    May 18, 2010 at 2:59 am

    Hi Barbie!

    Thanks for coming over to visit me! I enjoyed this post of yours. What a great attitude to have when things didn't turn out the way you were hoping. Choosing to put on the fruit of the Spirit always brings a newness to your day.

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