23 In Faith

Speak Life!

This scripture convicted my heart this morning.  As a busy mom who juggles a multitude of tasks each day, I get frustrated easily.  And because I am an external processor, everyone in the entire household knows when I’ve reached my breaking point.  Aside from the usual slamming of doors, I can tend to speak too harshly to my children, or my husband, at times.  How I speak to those I love, and those I encounter on a daily basis, is often a reflection of the hurt and pain that lies in my own heart.

A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart.  (Luke 6:45 NLT)

When I lose my temper, am quick to lash out at others, or quick to place judgement on another by my words, I must stop and ask the Lord to search my heart.  A heart that is fully at rest, one that is truly abiding in Christ, will be led and controlled by the Spirit of God, in all manners of speech.  If all I ever do is voice my disapproval with others, causing them hurt and pain, I must ask the Holy Spirit if there is hurt and pain in my own heart, and then pray and ask God first to remove my own pain so that I can be free to love.

As a woman who has given her heart to Christ, I must allow the Holy Spirit full control over my life, as well as my body.  My tongue can be used for good, to speak life and hope into others.  But it can also be used to speak death.  In those times when I am frustrated, confused, or have been wrongly accused, will I choose to allow the Holy Spirit to speak through me, displaying kindness, gentleness and self control, or will I choose to have my own way and inflict pain on others by my words?

Once released, our words can never be taken back.  It can take a lifetime of healing and restoration to recover from words that hurt, bring shame, and speak death.  If we can learn to control our tongues, choosing to allow the Holy Spirit to rule this area of our lives, it will save a lot of heartache later.

How about you my friend?  How does this scripture impact you this morning?  Will you share in the comments below?

I am linking up with Jane of Girl Meets Paper for Monday Morning Meditation and Kim of At Home with Kim for Morning Moments.  Join me?

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23 Comments

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    Mary
    January 14, 2013 at 9:37 am

    Many of us are guilty of harsh words, not only harsh words but words in general that should not be spoken. I have an issue with this, often I asking myself, “why did you say that?” There is so much power in the tongue, we should always watch what we say. I continually ask God to help me control my big mouth! Blessings Barbie, it was a great message that many need to focus on. I know I do!
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      Barbie
      January 14, 2013 at 8:07 pm

      Thank you Mary for stopping by. Praying that He will help us both to get control of our tongues!

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    Kim | At Home With Kim
    January 14, 2013 at 9:40 am

    What a great post. I was just talking with a friend the other day about the fact that as wives and moms, we are the heart of our home…. we set the tone for our homes. Without my daily Quiet Time to start the day, I’m sad to say that tone is usually not a warm one. And as they say — every negative thing we say requires eleven positive things to smooth over.
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      Barbie
      January 14, 2013 at 8:07 pm

      So true Kim. I find on those days when I miss being with Him, no one wants to be with me! Have a blessed week. So thankful for your friendship in this big blog world.

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    Leann
    January 14, 2013 at 9:41 am

    Oh, wow. This really speaks to me today. I have a tendency to let frustrations pile up and then *BAM!* I explode. I was reprimanding my 2.5yo yesterday for talking back to me and we got into a loud argument because neither one of us wanted to relent. He finally said, “Mommy, don’t talk like that!” and I realized that if I want him to talk to me in a respectful way, I must do the same. So, yeah, this is an area I’ve been struggling with lately. So timely!
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      Barbie
      January 14, 2013 at 8:13 pm

      Oh Leann, our children have a way of reminding us to be Christ like don’t they? We are works in progress, but we will get there, with His help! Thanks for stopping by!

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    Child of God
    January 14, 2013 at 2:26 pm

    Hi Barbie,
    Such a good and important word for all of us. Like you pointed out here the reason we lash out is because there is a root issue that needs to be dealt with. One of my issues is cleaning, I really hate doing it. There is only one aspect of cleaning that I don’t mind doing and that is vacuuming and even that is a learned thing to not mind. Because I detest cleaning so much I tend to get snappy when I notice others in my household leave a mess or make a mess in an area that I just cleaned. This bothers me, the fact that I get so snappy and grumpy. I have been wrestling with this for over 20 years and I have only improved a bit. What I am learning is there is a deep, rooted issue here that needs to be dealt with and what I am discovering is, I am not lazy, like I use to think, because I LOVE to clean a barn or work outside in the garden. I am very wild at heart and want to be free to fly and twirl. Cleaning makes me organized and contained, tied down and if I am not on top of the house it falls apart and the mess gives me anxiety. This anxiety, I haven’t discovered the reason yet as to why this happens. What Father is teaching me is patience and to react without harsh words. As I grow closer to Him and He is removing all the debris in me I see that Luke 6:45 speaks volumes on how much I am willing to totally trust Father, His Word and how deeply rooted He is in me. He is teaching me to pray before I speak and even sometimes I will run to a spot by myself and stomp the floor or throw a towel, (that usually helps). Then I can come back and address the issue in a better manner.

    I love you Barbie, thanks for sharing this.
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      Barbie
      January 14, 2013 at 8:14 pm

      Thank you so much for sharing your own personal journey here. I’m so thankful God isn’t finished with either of us yet!

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    Jenni
    January 14, 2013 at 5:05 pm

    Did you ever notice that when you are around those kind of people, you seem to pick it up? Like when I hang out with mom friends who snap at their kids, or speak too rough with them, i start doing it to my kids without even realizing it. You don’t want to be that person who rubs off negatively on other people and makes them snappy at their kids. We all do it, but the wise momma/wife realizes it and works on bettering herself. And apologizes. You have NO IDEA how many words I wish I could take back. Sometimes my mouth and brain get in mixed-up order.
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      Barbie
      January 14, 2013 at 8:16 pm

      So true Jenni! As the saying goes, “bad company corrupts good morals”. I don’t want to spend my life wishing to take back things I’ve said. Thank you for dropping in and sharing your thoughts. I’ll be off to visit your page!

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    Beth @ My Destiny
    January 15, 2013 at 3:29 am

    I do the same thing sometimes. Sigh. It is so frustrating. I wrote a post a week or two ago about giving someone the cold treatment. I knew if I opened my mouth more I would say horrible things in anger. Of course, I was trying to punish with my cold treatment too — so my heart wasn’t pure, that’s for sure.

    God’s mercy amazes me … and we all fail at times.

    Bless you!
    Beth
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      Barbie
      January 15, 2013 at 10:11 pm

      So true! Sometimes when we choose to keep silent it points to what is in our hearts that we are afraid to say, because we know it’s wrong.

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    Debbie
    January 15, 2013 at 5:06 am

    I love your honesty Barbie! I once heard that when we get kicked, we are sometimes surprised by what comes out. I have to admit there have been times when I was surprised by what came out of mine. 🙂 But yes, we are to abide in Him and allow Him to control ALL in our life. For me, it comes back to my one word: SURRENDER.

    Love this and you,
    Debbie
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      Barbie
      January 15, 2013 at 10:12 pm

      Oh yes, surrender. All to thee, my Blessed Savior, I surrender ALL!

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    Christina
    January 15, 2013 at 5:53 am

    I am the same way with my words and my tone. And it does reflect what is going on in my heart. Praying that I seek the Spirit’s control and work in my heart so that what I say reflects Him. Important truth here today!
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      Barbie
      January 15, 2013 at 10:13 pm

      Thank you Christina. I want what is in my heart to come out of my mouth. I want to overflow with Jesus!

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    Elizabeth@Transitional-Woman
    January 15, 2013 at 9:25 am

    The book of James is always a killer for me to read. My tongue and I have gotten into a lot of trouble over the years. I’ve been in the book of Proverbs recently and am being reminded over and over again about how dangerous ill-chosen words are to my relationship with others and God.
    Elizabeth@Transitional-Woman recently posted..Talk is Cheap

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      Barbie
      January 15, 2013 at 10:13 pm

      Great point Elizabeth! Thanks for stopping by.

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    carissa
    January 15, 2013 at 8:26 pm

    James is such a convicting book in general. but this portion, especially. i fail at this all too often.

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      Barbie
      January 15, 2013 at 10:14 pm

      So thankful for His mercies, aren’t you?

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    Jane Graham
    January 19, 2013 at 8:10 pm

    Barbie,
    I just love reading your words and can’t thank you enough for linking up each week! (sorry it took me so long to make my way over here, but I’m so glad I did!)

    I loved this: “…will I choose to have my own way and inflict pain on others by my words?” Boy have I asked myself the same thing MANY times this week! Thank you for reminding me that my words are always my *choice* and that I must lean on the Holy Spirit to control my tongue.
    Jane Graham recently posted..Monday Morning Meditation: James 1:26

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      Barbie
      January 19, 2013 at 10:38 pm

      Thank you Jane, and no apology necessary about the later visit than desire. I completely understand. I am still visiting commenters from a couple of weeks ago 🙁 I am so thankful God led me to your blog. It’s been a huge blessing. Thank you for inviting me into your community!

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    remona
    June 12, 2013 at 4:23 am

    Thank you barbie!! For reminding us we arent alone i struggle each day trying to choose my words to be like Christ or at least his image, in this fallen world trying to be a child of God and holding your head up high when people u trust betray you it isnt easy i have used words and thoughts but pray Gods grace turns it into forgiveness, because bad company (im not perfect either ) corrupts good morals.

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