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I Survived My First Year Of Homeschooling!

 

 

Well, I survived!

I have received many questions about how I do school, while holding down a full-time job, outside the home four days a week.  It hasn’t been easy, for the most part.  But, I am thankful that we stuck with it and didn’t throw in the towel and give up.  Oh, there were so many moments when I wanted to give up!  I thought I would share with you some of the things that helped me to survive my first year of homeschooling while working full time.

Pray!

I cannot stress enough how important it was for me to invite God into my homeschooling.  I prayed about everything, from curriculum choices, to scheduling, to taking days off.  I prayed for wisdom, strength, grace, patience (which got me into just a little bit of trouble), endurance and more coffee. Yes, I prayed for coffee!  I prayed for my girl, that she would bend, but not break.  I prayed for her heart to come alive to this new journey, for her to fully embrace and accept this as God’s will for her (at least for now, which I am not sure she’s fully convinced yet), and for God to bind us together and deepen our relationship.  Some things improved, some we are still working on.  This is a journey, not a race.

Be myself.

I spent countless hours reading homeschool blogs trying to figure out what it is I was supposed to be doing. I would read until my eyes burned, late into the night.  I would see what methods they used, what curricula they were teaching, what field trips they were taking, etc. In the end, I drove myself crazy!  I realized, albeit late in the game (I could have saved myself so much heartache) that homeschooling does not and will not look the same for every mom. Because of my unique situation as a working mom, things will look much different for me than most homeschooling moms. What is important is that I listen to the Holy Spirit and follow His leading in the day-to-day schooling of my child.  Ultimately, I don’t have to answer to anyone else but Him.

Enjoy some time off.

Yes, there are certain laws about how many hours in a school year a child must do school.  I get that.  But in reality, and in order to save my sanity, breaks were necessary.  This is especially vital when you decide to pull your very hormonal 7th grader out of school, for the first time ever, to school her at home.  Hormones, attitudes and stress levels need room to breath. We went for walks, did some shopping, went to lunch, watched movies and ate chocolate, some days before we ever opened a textbook.  My first priority this school year was the heart of my child.  We still have a lot of work to do.  Breaks allow for necessary breathing room and an opportunity to dig deeper to pull out the gold that I know exists in my child.

Letting go and moving on.

I can tend to be a perfectionist and a control freak.  I’ve come a long way, but there are still parts of me that want to control my daughter’s behavior and performance (like that can be done).  This year, I had to learn to let go and move on.  After the Christmas break, I let go of everything except Math, Science and History and moved on.  I was trying to hang onto things that weren’t working, for the sake of accomplishing something that I determined had to be done.  I was stressed, my daughter was overwhelmed, and nothing was working.  Letting go of the things that were causing the stress allowed us to pour our attention into those things that were necessary and most important.  We can always catch up next year.

Remember my role.

This was by far the hardest for me.  All of my daughter’s life, I’ve been mom. And we all know that with a budding pre-teen, “mom” can be over-bearing.  Add to that “teacher”, well let me just tell you that at times the air in the house was so thick you could taste it. Learning to relate to my daughter as mom AND teacher was a eye opener.  God reminded me that I’ve always been teacher, just not in the light that my daughter was accustomed to. Learning to gain her trust and respect in this area has often been a tug-of-war.  We are still working on our roles.

Forgiveness.

If there is one thing homeschooling has opened my eyes to, it is those areas where I feel I’ve failed as a parent.  As we’ve fought the battle of the wills, struggled through attitude adjustments, wanting our own ways, and the speaking of harsh words form time to time, I’ve realized that there is still a lot of parenting that I must do in order to have a well-adjusted, Christ like child.  I have had to forgive myself for my lack of parenting in certain areas.  We still have a lot of work to do, but over the last few weeks, I’ve seem a glimmer of hope.  God is able to come in and shore up those areas where I am weak.  I have no doubt that next year will be better on both the parenting and teaching fronts.

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How about you, my friends?  Are you wrapping up a homeschool year?  If so, what has been your biggest challenge? What has been your greatest joy?  I would love for you to share with me in the comments below.

21 Comments

  • Reply
    Linda
    June 3, 2013 at 4:13 am

    Congratulations on completing your first year of homeschooling Barbie! That is a BIG accomplishment! It sounds like you made the sacrifice because you decided it was “best for your daughter”, and so even though you had a full time job…you took on another full time job for the sake of your child! Bravo! I wish more parents would be so brave!

    I pray that next year will get easier, and that your daughter will be greatly blessed by all of your efforts…and that she will see the great love for her that motivates you!

    Love, Linda
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      Barbie
      June 3, 2013 at 8:09 am

      Thank you so much Linda for all of your support and encouragement!

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    Mary @ Redo 101
    June 3, 2013 at 7:06 am

    This is so encouraging to me … homeschooling for most of the last 11 years, I’ve experienced everything you talked about. Thanks for sharing this from your heart and the reality of the homeschool experience for many of us. Mary
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      Barbie
      June 3, 2013 at 8:10 am

      Thanks so much Mary! It’s been a rocky road at times, but God has been with us every step of the way!

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    Joan
    June 3, 2013 at 7:12 am

    What a wonderful look back at your year! I am so happy to have “met” you just recently at the end of this year, and I can’t wait for us both to tackle the eighth grade next year. You are so right – the heart of our daughters and a passion for the Lord are what matters MOST!
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      Barbie
      June 3, 2013 at 8:11 am

      I am excited to have met you as well Joan. Will be nice to journey along with you next year.

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    Anita
    June 3, 2013 at 8:32 am

    So many great insights! Thank you for sharing from your heart. We survived too and are looking forward to next year!
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      Barbie
      June 3, 2013 at 11:30 am

      Thanks for stopping by Anita! Happy Summer!

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    Renee
    June 3, 2013 at 8:51 am

    Congrats on surviving your first year!! LOL! You learned *early* in the game what we all do so, good job mom! **SO** Glad you are homeschooling even with a full time job! That is awesome!
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      Barbie
      June 3, 2013 at 11:31 am

      Thank you Renee. I appreciate your visit!

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    ~Karrilee~
    June 3, 2013 at 9:20 am

    So proud of you! It is time well invested, my friend!
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      Barbie
      June 3, 2013 at 11:32 am

      Thanks my friend. It is so worth it, isn’t it! Rejoicing with you in the upcoming graduation of your girl!

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    jennifer peterson
    June 3, 2013 at 2:22 pm

    this was your first year!!!??? I had no idea you made it look so flawless, and easy! Thank you for the tips, never know when I might need to homeschool

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      Barbie
      June 3, 2013 at 11:34 pm

      Ha! That’s probably on the days when I tossed the books out the window and said forget it, no school today! 🙂

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    Glenda Childers
    June 3, 2013 at 6:13 pm

    It looks like the teacher learned a lot her first year. 🙂 Bravo. I love homeschooling. (ages and ages ago.)

    Fondly,
    Glenda
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      Barbie
      June 3, 2013 at 11:34 pm

      Thank you Glenda, for your support and encouragement!

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    Dawn St Amand Paoletta
    June 3, 2013 at 8:18 pm

    Oh Barbie! I was going to write a post when we finish…we are still working through! I love you and appreciate your honesty. We are both Homeschooling our 7th grade girls, and it encourages me once in awhile to think of you across the country and me here, yet both learning as we go! Thank you for this post. I wish I could sit and have coffee with you! Meanwhile, I will have to write my concluding post. Your words resonate and are good for me to hear as well… still trying to find the balance, but so looking forward to a break, myself!
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      Barbie
      June 3, 2013 at 11:36 pm

      Dawn, I am proud of you for listening to the Holy Spirit, to being obedient to what He’s called you to do. The year was more challenging than I had anticipated, but I am believing God for a wonderful school year for 8th grade. I’m almost done buying curriculum! So thankful Summer is here!

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    Zohary Ross
    June 4, 2013 at 9:59 am

    Congrats Barbie! That is a huge deal. We’re just wrapping up our first year as well (sort of, I’ll still be homeschooling the little ones through summer) so I can definitely relate. Enjoy some time off!
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      Barbie
      June 5, 2013 at 9:28 pm

      Thank you Zohary! I almost have all of my curriculum for next year chosen, bought or borrowed, so I plan to enjoy my summer!

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    April
    June 5, 2014 at 12:58 pm

    I cannot tell you how glad I am to hear that someone is successful at homeschooling while working. It makes me feel better about my decision to do that this upcoming year.
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