The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted {Review & Giveaway}

Disclosure (in accordance with the FTC’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising”): Many thanks to Propeller Consulting, LLC for providing this prize for the giveaway. Choice of winners and opinions are 100% my own and NOT influenced by monetary compensation. I did receive a sample of the product in exchange for this review and post.  Only one entrant per mailing address, per giveaway. If you have won the same prize on another blog, you are not eligible to win it again. Winner is subject to eligibility verification.”

I  have been married for 25 years.  We have had our share of joyous times, hard times and sorrow.  No matter how long you’ve been married, there is always room for improvement.  Always.  My husband and I have struggled more in the last five years of our marriage than we ever have.  But even with the challenges, we are committed to each other and we are committed to our marriage.  If there is one thing I know and understand, marriage is work, and couples must be willing to work on their marriage in order to remain satisfied and fulfilled.

I was thrilled to have the opportunity to review a copy of The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted by Dr. Gary Chapman.  My husband and I enjoyed reading The Five Love Languages in the past so I was really looking forward to diving into this one.


About the book.

You can picture the perfect marriage in your mind, but re-creating it in reality doesn’t come easy. Trusted counselor and relationship expert Dr. Gary Chapman reasons that the most sought-after ingredient in any marriage is true oneness. In The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted, he presents expert wisdom and common sense methods to establishing that true unity on emotional and practical levels. Discover the wit and insight that makes his worldwide presentations and marriage conferences so popular. Are you trying to change your spouse? Do you know what it means to really love someone? Do you feel ignored or even alone in your effort to improve your marriage? Dr. Chapman has answers and action steps on topics from expressing your emotions to managing your money, all in a format that will have you and your spouse talking and learning with every page.

My thoughts

At just 143 pages, this book is not too overwhelming.  But it shouldn’t be read too fast.  Packed with scripture, it is meant to take you and your spouse on a journey into the heart of God for your marriage. There are 9 chapters in the book dealing with very practical issues:

Why Do People Marry?
“Why Won’t They Change?”
What Love Really means
“Listen to Me!”
Who Takes Care of What?
Decisions, Decisions
“You Mean We Have to Work at Sex?”
Leaving and Honoring Parents
Love and Money

Out of the 9 chapters included in the book, one of the chapters that I got the most out of was the one entitled “Listen to me!”.  I have found that over time, marriage communication can become routine. Personally, I am all too often quick to speak and quick to get angry.  I really need to have a listening ear and continually ask God to give me a heart of understanding towards my husband.  After each chapter there are reflection questions geared toward building greater discussion and togetherness, as well as allowing God to work on your own heart concerning your marriage.

I believe this book is a good choice for any married couple, whether you’ve been married 2 years or 22 years.  No marriage is perfect.  This book gives you the scriptural foundations to help you bring true happiness and satisfaction in your marriage.

The giveaway.

I am excited to provide a copy of The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted to one of my readers.  All you have to do to enter is follow the instructions on the PunchTab entry form below.  The giveaway will remain open until 9PM (Pacific Time) on Friday, February 21st.  The winner will be chosen and notified by email.



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14 Responses

  1. Rosann says:

    Thanks for hosting this giveaway Barbie! I’m excited to learn more about this book. We loved the 5 Love Languages also. I think the chapter I’m most intrigued about is love and money because I know that’s often a touchy subject. But really, I’d love to read the whole book! 🙂
    Rosann recently posted..What You Need to Know About God’s Protection

  2. Kym says:

    Very nice giveaway! I’m most interested in the Love and Money chapter as well. It’s the one issue that keeps coming up that seems hard to talk about without either of us getting defensive.
    Kym recently posted..My Favorite Blankets: Flour Sack Quilts

  3. Thanks for this giveaway, Barbie! I’m most intrigued by the chapter “what love really means” because I think that’s the one most people get wrong (including me sometimes). I hope you are doing well. I pray for you daily! <3

    Heart Hugs, Shelly <3
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  4. Diana Denis says:

    Even after 20 years of marriage we’re still working to figure out the best way to continually love each and continually be loving. Thanks for the recommendation. I enjoyed the love languages, sounds like I’m going to have to add this one to my library. Hope you’re staying warm!
    Diana Denis recently posted..When your ONE WORD takes you to your knees

    • Barbie says:

      Marriage is such a journey, isn’t it Diana? We will never fully arrive this side of heaven, but we can get close. The weather here in California has been very nice this week. Hugs!

  5. Ashley says:

    This looks so amazing! Love you Barbie!!
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  6. Thanks for hosting the giveaway, Barbie…sounds like it was a helpful book…marriage always needs work…just like a garden, to bloom with beauty 🙂 Happy Valentine’s Day to you 🙂
    Dolly@Soulstops recently posted..You’re going to be okay, because God has given you what you need

  7. Beth says:

    Thanks friend. I loved what you said was your favorite chapter of the book since I’m feeling as though the main place God intends to grow my marriage this year is in our communication. I’d love to be able to read. 🙂
    Love you.
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  8. Tracy says:

    Hi Barbie. Your post meant a lot to me. I love how the Lord makes sure we hear Him and know He hears us. The chapter that intrigues me the most, “Listen to me!” I do feel unheard and I certainly mess up royally when I try to be heard. God bless and thanks for being transparent! It certainly helps those of us who need to read this.
    Tracy recently posted..Time Out!

  9. I’m most intrigued by the “You Mean We Have to Work at Sex?” since my husband and I just did a webinar on this same topic ( We both think the topic is not discussed nearly enough in Christian marriages.

    Excited about the opportunity to win this book, as we live near where Dr. Chapman is from and love his other books!
    LeeAnn G Taylor recently posted..Leaving Doubt Behind & Choosing to Trust {Psalm 28:7}

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