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The Beauty Of An Unraveled Life // The Weekend Brew

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When I was a little girl, I loved to watch my grandma crochet. She always created beautiful things. I never was interested in learning the art of crocheting when I was younger. I wish I had been more patient and allowed her to teach me. I was more interested in playing with all of the balls of yarn in her crochet basket. The yarn would often end up unraveled in a messy pile on the floor. It was next to impossible to put it back together the way it was.

When your life unravels, it doesn’t always come back together the way it was.

No longer all put together in a neat and orderly way, a life unraveled has many characteristics that some would look upon as negative. I choose to look at the beauty that is evolving in the midst of it.

An unraveled life is a messy life. Tattered, torn, frayed, broken, bruised. When our lives become unraveled we don’t know if we are coming or going, which way is up and how it will all come together again. It’s overwhelming when we try to make something out of our mess. But when we invite God into it, we give Him permission to put us back together the way He desires for us to be. This requires a life fully surrendered as we relinquish our dreams and desires and hold onto a deep trust that He will make something beautiful out us.

Although we are not yet who we desire to be, we are becoming all that God intended us to be. Click To Tweet

An unraveled life has frayed edges. The edges of our lives — those things that are beginning and ending; the hopes and dreams we hold onto; the broken one in need of a Healer; the lost soul in need of a Savior. When we allow the frayed edges to grow, they threaten to unravel us at our very core. How does a heart stay alive and prospering in the midst of an unraveling? We have to let go. We must allow our lives to continue to unravel as we surrender it into His hands. He’s waiting at the end of the unraveling to put us back together again.

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An unraveled life is often more beautiful than it was before. When we lie in a heap of tears on the floor and realize that the task of putting ourselves back together again is not ours, but His, we can be at peace. Before the unraveling, we are put together, tightly wound, perfectly patterned, in sync with all of life. But now, we are loose, free, ready to be made new, perhaps better than before. And that’s when He comes and gathers us up — the mess, the frayed edges, the brokenness — and restores us to beauty.

I’m not fighting it anymore. I am thankful to be living an unraveled life.

I may be a mess, but God is right here in the middle of it all.

I may be broken, but there is One who comes to restore and build up again.

I may be weak, but there is strength found when I lay myself down.

I may be bruised, but healing will come in His time.

I may have only frayed edges to offer, but God holds them all together in the palm of His hand.

How about you, my friend, how are you finding beauty in living a life unraveled?

*This post reminds me of a beautiful friend, Katie, who blogs about finding grace in the unraveling. If you haven’t happened upon her blog yet, be sure to visit. You will be blessed.

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55 Comments

  • Reply
    Jedidja
    June 5, 2015 at 1:11 am

    Super – post! Thanks Barbie.
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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 10:58 pm

      You’re welcome Jedidja! Have a blessed weekend.

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    Andrew Budek-Schmeisser
    June 5, 2015 at 2:16 am

    Beautiful imagery for an important topic.

    I’m not sure, though, that the unraveled life is necessarily more beautiful. My life has certainly unraveled over the past few years, and it wasn’t pretty at all.

    Through slow degrees I’ve been putting it back together, weaving what I could salvage into new patterns of functionality and service, but as it lay unraveled…no, I would not go back there.

    God has been there in the restoration, but it was I who had to commit to it. The rewoven work in progress would not exist without the hand of the Almighty, but I was the instrument…it wouldn’t exist without me, either.

    Teamwork. Me and God, working together.
    Andrew Budek-Schmeisser recently posted..Your Dying Spouse 14 – Gift of Days (Five Minute Friday)

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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:00 pm

      I can feel your heart in this and I can understand completely. Perhaps the words would be “sometimes more beautiful”. I changed my post to hopefully reflect my heart. It’s hard, so hard to let go of a life that once was beautiful. But together, with God, there is a tapestry of beauty being woven amidst pain. Thank you for your response. You are in my prayers.

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    Susan Mead
    June 5, 2015 at 5:03 am

    Barbie, found you through Kelly Balarie as she linked to #DanceWithJesus linkup today.

    Unraveled. Yes ma’am! My mom crocheted too. And I did not want to learn how either. Yet I wanted to be the recipient of her good gift. Now, I’ll take HIS good gifts. Love this post! Susan.

    Ps-join the dance today at http://www.susanbmead.com/the-hooker-and-the-homeless-linkup/
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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:01 pm

      Thanks for stopping by Susan! Praying you have a blessed and beautiful weekend.

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    Christi Gee
    June 5, 2015 at 5:29 am

    This reminds me of Corrie Ten Boon’s example of the needlework ~ “This is what your life looks like to God.” It may look like unraveling to us, but to God, it’s a beautiful masterpiece in process. I’ve written about “Falling apart right into place” and see myself in so much of what you wrote here.

    And in your unraveling, sweet sister, you are extending threads to others. And you never know what threads of yours are being woven into someone else’s life.

    Thanks for being here!

    Embracing the journey,
    Christi

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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:02 pm

      Christi, thank you so much for stopping by and encouraging my heart today!

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    Jamie S. Harper
    June 5, 2015 at 6:36 am

    Thank you, Barbie, for the message in this post! How gracious and beautiful! So thankful for you.
    Jamie S. Harper recently posted..Keep Yourselves from Idols

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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:03 pm

      I miss your words Jamie. I need to find the time to balance my life so that I can catch up!

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    Kelly Balarie
    June 5, 2015 at 7:03 am

    Amen! God is weaving a beautiful arrangement inside of us that shines for his glory. Great truth.

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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:04 pm

      AMEN! Have a blessed weekend Kelly!

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    Hannah Bollinger
    June 5, 2015 at 8:38 am

    Beautiful, Barbie. Thank you! I remember back to times where all I saw was the mess…but today I’m so grateful that I see God making beauty out of the most unlikely things. When I come undone, there’s only One who can put me back together – and He creates so much beauty along the way!
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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:05 pm

      He always makes beautiful things from the dust of our lives. Blessings to you Hannah!

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    Beth S.
    June 5, 2015 at 10:15 am

    Oh, friend, there is such beauty and hope wrapped into these words of yours. Just beautiful. Love you so much. xoxo
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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:06 pm

      Seeing your beautiful face here makes me smile. Your post today, so much AMEN!

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    Deb Foster
    June 5, 2015 at 3:11 pm

    And how beautiful his handiwork when He knits us back together… Plucking out the knots and stitching may not seem easy or pleasant at the time, but what a blessing when we can look back and see areas that may have been misshapen or mistaken before the unraveling. Even in situations we don’t understand and are very painful, He can still create beauty in the pain and loss. Thanks for sharing.
    https://mysteriesofgrace.wordpress.com/2015/06/04/the-pitter-pat…of-little-feet/

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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:07 pm

      AMEN Deb!

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    Beth Willis miller
    June 5, 2015 at 5:58 pm

    Barbie, love this post and your transparency in sharing…I so agree that inexperience peace when I put my unraveled ends in Jesus’ hands ❤️
    Beth Willis miller recently posted..You are the One our hearts adore…

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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:07 pm

      So true Beth! Have a beautiful weekend.

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    Kathryn Shirey
    June 5, 2015 at 8:03 pm

    I love this post! Love the idea of the unraveled life – and embracing that mess to allow God to put it back together. I’ve been living the unraveled life for the past couple of years, trying to surrender to the mess and the process of unraveling and then being put back together. Not always a fun process, but I’ve been blessed to see it as a process so there’s the hope it will have a beautiful result. I’m unraveled right there with you!
    Kathryn Shirey recently posted..Dream the Impossible… Imagine God’s Possible

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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:08 pm

      So thankful to have you along on the journey Kathryn!

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    Betsy
    June 5, 2015 at 11:03 pm

    This is making me smile this morning Barbie because I’m reminded to GIVE UP CONTROL, to hand the reigns of life over to God.

    This is me trying to control: “It’s overwhelming when we try to make something out of our mess.”

    This is surrender: “But when we invite God into it, we give Him permission to put us back together the way He desires for us to be.” Thanks for your words.
    Betsy recently posted..How Can Busy Women Really Rest?

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      Barbie
      June 5, 2015 at 11:09 pm

      I am so there with you. It’s hard, living this unraveled life. I want control, to keep it together, to not lose my lid. Oh God surely knows best, doesn’t He? Happy weekend!

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    Elizabeth
    June 5, 2015 at 11:16 pm

    I think God is at work weaving something beautiful in you and through you in the midst of what looks and feels like a knotted up mess.
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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:24 pm

      I think so too Elizabeth! Thanks for the reminder.

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    Denise
    June 6, 2015 at 2:55 am

    Oh, this is so good Barbie!!!! I think that we often associate brokenness as being fragile, insignificant, injured, worthless, and damaged. But brokenness is how God achieves some of His inmost work within our hearts. He uses the breaking process to change, reinforce, and bless us. The point of our brokenness is to draw us nearer to God; He takes our brokenness and makes us valuable for Him! ღ
    Blessings dear friend! I hope your week is filled with joy sweet sister! ღ
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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:27 pm

      Thank you Denise. I believe God can make our lives more beautiful when we surrender our brokenness to Him.

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    Joanne Viola
    June 6, 2015 at 4:26 am

    Barbie, I think at time He unravels us as it is the only way to untangle us. If you have not read the book, “Untangled” by Carey Scott, it is such an encouraging read. I am giving away a copy & the giveaway is open until tomorrow night, if you are interested. Wonderful post. Blessings to you!
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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:27 pm

      Thank you Joanne! Heading over now to enter your giveaway 🙂

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    Michele Morin
    June 6, 2015 at 6:05 am

    Barbie, I have so appreciated your eternal perspective. We are being woven, and the process can feel so messy and out of control. Thank you for seeing God’s hand in it all, and then sharing what you see.
    Michele Morin recently posted..He Sings Over You with Love

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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:32 pm

      I appreciate your visits and your comments Michele!

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    Gayl
    June 6, 2015 at 6:53 am

    Barbie, this is such a good post. When we begin to come unraveled or things we thought were intact begin to unravel, it’s so tempting to despair and wonder what went wrong. When we realize that we can’t fix it ourselves and learn to trust God more, there is a kind of freedom and peace that comes. We don’t have to have it all together. We don’t have to have all the answers. We need to take one step at a time and look for the beauty as God works in us to transform us into the women He wants us to be. I’ve had some things happen recently that are out of my hands and it just reminds me that He is in control, not me. Thank you for sharing your heart here. Blessings to you!
    Gayl recently posted..All Kinds of Gifts

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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:33 pm

      I’m being continually reminded that I’m not in control of my life — God is! Have a blessed week Gay!

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    bluecottonmemory
    June 6, 2015 at 8:12 am

    The knitter in me loves this so much. I came home one day a few years ago and found our new golden retriever had got into my yard – and somehow – in only the way a puppy can – she was in the middle of the donut hole of a new skein of yarn. The entire bag was a mess – and so was the yarn. But – yes – He puts us back together into a new creation – an His-creation. I wonder if that was part of the plan – to be made more beautiful through the mess?! You wove this together so beautifully!

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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:23 pm

      There are so many lessons I’m learning in the messy parts of my life, more than when I was all put together. Thank you for stopping by.

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    Deb Wolf
    June 6, 2015 at 8:16 am

    I’m right there with you Barbie. Unraveled. By God’s grace I’m being rewoven. So very thankful for His sufficient grace. Blessings to you sweet friend!
    Deb Wolf recently posted..Are You As Discouraged As I Am?

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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:22 pm

      His grace is sufficient, isn’t it? Even on those days where I fear I may loose it altogether, His grace comes and reminds me that He’s got me. Thanks for stopping by Deb!

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    June
    June 6, 2015 at 9:22 am

    “I am not ashamed: for I know whom I have believed, and am persuaded that He is able to keep that which I have committed unto Him against that day.” Paul wrote these words near the end of his life when Nero had him in chains, in a dark, rat invested prison, and everyone but Luke had abandoned him. Yet Paul knew he could trust in God’s promises. The thing about that messy pile of yarn – it’s a beautiful rainbow of colors. A rainbow always points to His promise. Have a wonder-filled week!
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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:21 pm

      This encouraged my heart greatly. Thank you!

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    Ruthie Gray
    June 6, 2015 at 12:02 pm

    “When your life unravels, it doesn’t always come back to the way it was.” YES. Almost never. It’s time for a new normal, time to let go the yarn and let God have His way instead of trying to fix it ourselves.
    I have tons of yarn in my closet. I try to crochet every 3 years or so – it never turns out. But I love yard so much for some reason, so I could relate to this post!
    Thanks for your words of wisdom.

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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:21 pm

      I’m so glad you stopped by Ruthie! Have a blessed week.

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    Dolly@Soulstops
    June 6, 2015 at 7:35 pm

    Barbie,
    Thanks for modeling trust and surrender in your beautiful and hope-filled post….Lately I’ve been listening to Plumb’s song, “Resurrection,” and asking God to help me to believe He is still in the business of restoration and I see Him doing that in your life as I’ve read your words over the months…((hugs))
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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:18 pm

      Dolly, thank you so much for your encouragement. I want to continually keep my eyes on Him and share what I’m learning on the journey. I love Plumb!

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    Carrie
    June 6, 2015 at 7:49 pm

    Beautiful, honest and encouraging for all of us who continue to unravel and leave our broken pieces on the floor. Right there with you, friend! Thank you for sharing your heart!

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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:17 pm

      He’s the only one I know capable of putting me back together again! Have a blessed week my friend.

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    Laurie Collett
    June 6, 2015 at 8:00 pm

    Praise God that when we see nothing but frayed, tangled loose ends, He is weaving a beautiful tapestry! Love this post and your tender heart that shines through it with His light. Thanks for hosting and God bless.
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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:16 pm

      Thank you so much Laurie!

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    Holly Barrett
    June 7, 2015 at 11:45 am

    What an interesting though…to be grateful to be living an unraveled life. I like that and am challenged by it because I want everything in its nice neat little box. Love that God loves me regardless of the frayed and tattered edges of my soul.
    Holly Barrett recently posted..Greatness and power

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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:16 pm

      It’s a stretch for me too Holly, and I have to consistently remind myself to be thankful in the midst of it. Have a blessed week!

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    Beth
    June 7, 2015 at 11:51 am

    I can relate to your words here, Barbie. Just yesterday I was feeling like I was in a really good place in a certain area of my life and all it took was a small event to send me spiraling again. I feel like this may actually be a good thing–an undoing that God is going to use. He’s taking those messy weaknesses of mine, like you’ve pointed out, and make them into something beautiful and redemptive. Thanks for the inspiration!
    Beth recently posted..Battling to Spiritually Lead? Sloppy Joe Time Video

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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:16 pm

      So thankful you are finding him in your unraveling Beth!

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    Shannan Williams
    June 7, 2015 at 1:14 pm

    Barbie, I don’t always get the time to get over to your blog but I had starred this one for some reason. Now I know the reason. God really spoke to me through your words today. You could have written today’s post for me. So many times I feel completely unraveled and have no idea how to get back where I should be. Thank you so much for sharing from your heart with us. Bless you my friend. ~Shannan

    p.s. 2 of my grandma’s crocheted, knitted…did all kinds of things and I hated it as a kid. What I wouldn’t give to know how to do those things now.
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      Barbie
      June 7, 2015 at 5:15 pm

      Shannan, this is why I write, to bless and encourage even just one. So thankful my words spoke to your heart today!

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    Marsha
    June 10, 2015 at 12:23 pm

    What a beautiful post, Barbie. A life unraveled…that summarizes Mike’s and my life right now. We thought we had the plan for the tapestry of life all planned and weaved. And then October 14, 2014, God decided it was time to unravel a bit of it so He could weave a different pattern. It hasn’t been easy to watch the unraveling, but we’re beginning to see His new pattern for our life together, albeit an earlier work retirement than we had planned. He is always God and always faithful.

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