The Time Comparison Almost Destroyed My Life


Today I am honored to be guest posting over at Laura Rath’s place, sharing my heart as part of her comparison series. Comparison is something that I am all too familiar with. I’m still not quite free of it yet, but I am farther along than I was.  In my post, I share about a time that comparison nearly destroyed my life.  Here is a small glimpse:

It was an innocent attraction.  I was in a very low point of my life and although I carried myself as one who was secure and loved on the outside, I was empty, lonely and dissatisfied with my life on the inside.  All of the comparing I had done through the years leading up to my marriage was finally manifesting in ways I never new existed.  Why was her husband more affectionate?  Why was her husband more gifted? Why did her husband bring her gifts?  Why did her husband call her just because?  Why couldn’t my husband do those things?

I had internalized all of the places of lack in my soul and made myself believe I was unsatisfied with my marriage, when in fact my eyes were turned to what I thought everyone else had, and onto what I thought I lacked.  My vision was blurred and I could not see the blessing that God had put right in front of me.  There was nothing wrong with my marriage.  But there was something wrong with me.  I had taken my eyes off of the one I loved and went in search of something, anything to satisfy my weary heart.

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Friends, will you head over to Laura’s space to read the rest of my post? I pray it will encourage your heart.


Surviving Unemployment: {Guest Post}

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Hello friends.  If you’ve been around here for any length of time, you will know that I’ve walked alongside my husband through unemployment off and on over the last four years. We are still walking this journey and I’ve learned a lot of things, a few of which I’ve shared over at Rosann’s place, Unemployed Faith.  Here’s a little teaser:

I am the wife of a man who has been unemployed more often than not over the last 4 years. I wish I could say it hasn’t changed me. But it has. I wish I could say that I’ve always kept the faith. But there were times when I had lost my hope. I wish I could say that I am more prepared for “the next time” should it happen again. But I am still learning to walk this long, and often lonely road.

I don’t have any fancy words of faith and inspiration, no bright light to share that’s gotten us through this season unscathed. We are different. It’s been a long, hard journey. But despite the valley, we know that God is good. We know that He never leaves our side. We know that He will bring us through as we continue to walk forward together, putting our trust in Him. Our situation rocked us to the core, but in Christ we put our hope, for without Him there is no hope.

Has your life been impacted directly by unemployment? I trust my very raw and honest post will encourage you.  Would you stop over to Rosann’s and read the rest of my post?  I’d love to get your thoughts.

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Guest Posting at (in)courage Today!

I am excited, humbled and honored to be sharing at (in)courage today!  Through following the blogs of women like Bonnie, Ann and Jennifer (just to name a few), I stumbled upon a community of faith-filled, joy-filled and inspiring women.  I found out how quickly my heart connected, as their words resonated and breathed life into my spirit.  I come here daily to this site, to drink deeply and to be encouraged to be who God created me to be.

Today I am sharing about reaching for God’s fullness.  Here is a little teaser:

In our fast-paced world, we are always reaching for something.  Reaching for significance.  Reaching for success.  Reaching for position.  Reaching for love.  All of these things are good.  But I have found myself asking this question: Am I reaching for the One who can give me everything that I desire?  I go through seasons in my life where I become comfortable with the current state of my heart, comfortable with where I have “arrived”.  And in those times, I forget to reach.  I forget to lay hold of that which is yet to be.  I forget to strive for the greater potential.  When I find myself here in this place, I must call it for what it is — complacency.

Will you head over to (in)courage to read the rest of my post?  And, if you haven’t already bookmarked the site, you will want to be sure you do.  It’s a great place to come and drink deeply of God’s richness.

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Holding On To Hope {Grace Cafe}

I am honored to be guest posting today over at the Grace Cafe.  Here’s a little bit of what you can expect:

A couple of years ago, my family went through a season of intense financial hardship, some of which we are still recovering from today.  My husband, who is in the construction field, was laid off.  We were already a little financially strained, but with the layoff we fell further behind and could not keep up with our mortgage.  To make a long story short, we had to sell our home in order to avoid foreclosure.  I remember praying and holding on to the hope that our house would be saved.  But this wasn’t God’s plan.

Will you head over to the Grace Cafe at Reflections of His Grace today and read the rest of my post?  And when you stop by, will you leave a comment so that I know you visited?

I pray that you will be blessed and encouraged!