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Featured Friend: Ashley of The Heart of Ashley

Beautiful tulip bouquet over garden bokeh backgroundWelcome to Feature Friend Wednesday!  Every Wednesday for the next few months I will introduce you to one of my beautiful writing friends.  I hope you will take the time to read.  Make sure to scroll down to the bottom of the post to read about the author and visit her blog and social media links.

Speaking Life
by Ashley of The Heart of Ashley

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Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits. (Proverbs 18:21)

These days you can find me mostly doing one of three things – mothering, cleaning, and desperately seeking Jesus.

Let me back up. My husband has went from working and coming home every night to taking on a new job and being gone away from us weeks at a time. My whole life and world revolved around him — his support, his encouragement, his help, his presence, his words, his prayers, his love. He fixes everything and makes it better- with his family and his house.

So when the day came for him to go for a short time, I thought I would crumble. Actually, I knew I would. I just didn’t know how to go on being the only parent and ALONE. I have a 5 and 2 year old. Enough said.

The past weeks without him have been just as I described. I mother. I clean. And I am in my Bible more than ever. One sweet lady whose husband is a seasoned out-of-town worker told me that I would rely more on Jesus than ever- and she was exactly right. I’ve been running to the Book, Sunday school class and church, and prayer. I’ve breathed, slept and ate scripture because I am not enough and I can’t do it alone. I know now what I needed even with my husband here — more Jesus.

One of the best women in the world teaches my Sunday school class. I’ve learned so much from her, and this past 2 weeks she has been talking with us about speaking life. I never realized how detrimental my thoughts and my words were over my life and my blessings until I heard her speak on it and direct me to the scriptures about it. The tongue is powerful and we can use it two ways. It can stop us from moving on or it can direct us where we go.

I was using a lot of it for darkness. Thoughts like I can’t do this, I’m not enough, I can’t measure up, I can’t see this working out, God won’t bless me like that, God might be looking over me, just to name a few.

Then I would speak it to people.  And when you speak what’s in your heart it can either bless or curse your life. What I thought I had validated in my head as the truth only made me see that it was a lie when I would tell someone. The enemy puts this lie into our head and wants us to believe it and live it out as the truth.

Then I went to the altar on Sunday and asked God to forgive me for accepting and holding onto this fiction.

My Sunday school teacher dared us to live out our truth. Even if our pasts were scary, even if we had made mistakes, we could bring it to the light and know that we aren’t that person anymore. We don’t have to carry it with us into who we are now. We are forgiven and we are set free from it. It doesn’t have to dig its way in and attach itself to our souls. 

That’s NOT our identity. Our first name is not what we have done. It’s who we are in Him.

It’s up to us to speak His truth into our life instead of death, and we must forgive ourselves and others for failing to do that.

It’s changed my life, it’s changed my heart, and it’s radically changed my mind. It’s made me stronger in Christ, and no matter what comes my way, I am capable of thinking and speaking goodness over my circumstances.

Won’t you try it?

ashl.squareAshley is just a simple southern girl who writes for Jesus. Mother of two and wife to her best friend. She drinks a lot of coffee, lives to encourage and help others, and dares to dream big. She writes her heart at The Heart of Ashley and captures her life on Instagram.


8 thoughts on “Featured Friend: Ashley of The Heart of Ashley”

  1. ~Karrilee~ says:

    Oh girl – you know you are Speaking my language here! (and my tagline!) 😉 I love you so and I am so proud of you! And this? You and Barbie in one space? Grace multiplied and beauty all around! Love you both!
    ~Karrilee~ recently posted..My Love Idol revealed… (It’s true. I have issues!)

  2. Tara says:

    Love this post beautiful friend 🙂 You have shone a light I desperately needed. Thank you <3
    Tara recently posted..Learning To Be A Spectator

  3. Olivia says:

    This post is so refreshing and life-giving! I can’t tell you how excited I was to come over here and read what you had to say! Prayers as you continue to lean on Jesus whether your hubby is near or far! <3

  4. Maria @ The Good Life says:

    This is beautiful and so needed right now. I do not know why but I feel out of sorts. I am happy in my life but I cannot seem to feel drifting a bit, so sometimes I speak things that I know I should not. This really spoke to me “Our first name is not what we have done. It’s who we are in Him”.
    Maria @ The Good Life recently posted..112 // this wedding just got real… island style!

  5. Beth says:

    Ashley, it is so wonderful to see you here at Barbie’s. What a beautiful post. And I so related to how having your husband gone can lead you to seek Jesus more and more. I would not be able to survive this time apart from my husband without Him. It can be so hard but I’m grateful for how my relationship with Jesus is growning. I’m continually amazed by His love and kindess. He truly is always with us.
    Blessings to you sweet friend as you speak truth..His truth.
    Love you.
    Beth recently posted..Three Word Wednesday: My Lenten Journey

  6. Daisy Rowaro says:

    Beautiful ! I was totally blessed reading this! Thank you for this encouraging piece. God Bless richly. Daisy

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