Disappointed. I’ve felt this way a lot, especially this past year.
It’s easy for me to fall into the disappointment trap. When life isn’t going how I expect it to, or how I desire it to be, my heart fails and I find myself discouraged, disappointed and disheartened. Sooner or later if I’m not careful the disappointment leads to depression and I tend to camp there all too often. You?
Here are some of the things that I’ve been dealing with, especially over the past year, that leaves me disappointed:
- The loss of my mom to lung cancer in August. We couldn’t have a funeral. It was hard to say goodbye. It’s still hard. My heart aches.
- Financial strain. Hubby is still not working full time since COVID hit. As a self-employed individual, this can become very stressful.
- Missing friends and family. Yes, I have been a rule breaker and have gathered with my kids, but I am very careful when I visit my dad. I have one friend who I visit from time to time since this whole thing started and we are very careful. I do not gather in large groups and still view church services on line. But I need people. I miss my people.
- Living life as normal. Life how it use to be is no more. I have not yet been able to embrace the “new normal”. My heart aches for what once was. I’m not sure we will ever see it as it was.
So how does one crawl out from under the trap of disappointment? For me, it’s forcing myself to take my eyes off of what is happening around me and shift my focus to the good. It may mean turning off the news (it almost always means turning off the news for me); it may mean diving into a good devotional book or other inspirational book; it may mean narrowing your followed accounts on social media to include only those who have positive things to say. Don’t get me wrong, there is purpose in disagreement, but when it turns to bashing and bantering of others and malicious attacks, it’s time to unfollow. And, it most always for me means allowing yourself to be reminded that no matter what, God is good and there is hope.
“Whenever something bad happens, keep calm, take a few deep breaths and shift the focus to something positive.”
― Roy T. Bennett
Are you disappointed with life? Are you struggling to see the good around you. Don’t lose heart. There is hope.
How can I pray for you today?